Core Energetics South's Fall to Winter News 2003/04
Copyright Pamela L Chubbuck PhD,
Core Energetics Develops in us the Capacity to Love and Heal
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Sexuality & the Heart: The Art of Relating -
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Love, Eros & Sex, the 3 Stage Rocket of Relationship. New Article by Pam
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Darkness & Light: What Winter Can Teach Us
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Personal Psycho-Spiritual Intensives™: Just What Your (Inner) Doctor Orders
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What's Ahead? Core Energetics Workshops: & Training Program
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Core Energetics Training Program 2004
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New email address: coreenergetics@msn.com (That's an underscore)
Sexuality & Heart: The Art of Relating Feb 20-23
February Workshop! Relate to Self First, Then Partner.
In February Walid Daw will be back to offer his now famous workshop Sexuality & the Heart: The Art of Relationship. This time co- led with Pam Chubbuck. You get us both…two international Core Energetics faculty members for the price of one! Last year participants wanted more time for more depth and intimacy. So here you have it. Four full days of powerful, beautiful, heart-opening experience! We think February is the best time to offer a relationship workshop of this depth, coming the week after Valentines Day. Give this workshop to yourself or each other as a special gift of love. Sexuality & Heart: the Art of Relating, will be no fluff, but the deep stuff that creates transformation on all levels. And brings you closer to what really matters in life.
This is what some past workshop participants said about their experience: Jim.Y. said; “I have received a great gift from the workshop with Walid, a gift of seeing myself, my gender and my sexuality in a clearer way, without having to resort to overcompensation by becoming willful and aggressive.” Jim also tells us that a sweetness and gentleness has remained between him and his wife, since the workshop. K.A., said that the workshop was one of the high points of her life. Participants “Loved the workshop.” KS has reported that just showing up for a workshop with the focus on heart and sexuality, tolerating all her anxiety and staying in her body, with the help and heartfelt gentleness of the workshop leader was a healing.
Our culture and our caretakers have taught us to split our love feelings, our heart-- from our sexual feelings, our pelvis. This causes tragic results, making our lives difficult at best and for many miserable. People often seek love in one place and sexual fulfillment in another believing that they can never have both with the same person. Couples long for a sexual connection to equal their heart connection and a heart connection to equal their passion with a lover.
This workshop shows us we can have both and we can learn to relate to our partners with our hearts and bodies.
It is the task of each of us on this planet to unify with ourselves first and then with another if we choose to. The loving sexual union is the closest experience that human beings can have to know union with the Universe, with Spirit.
Workshop leaders, Walid Daw PhD, director of Core Energetics Institute Switzerland, and Pamela Chubbuck PhD. director of Core Energetic Institute South. Walid is internationally known for his open hearted and clear work with individuals and couples around relationship and sexual issues. Walid is a published author, artist and speaks seven languages. Pam has worked with couples for three decades, is a published author, and grandmother. Both are also trained in Bioenergetic Analysis, both have 30 years of experience as therapists. They enjoy working together.
“This is a workshop about the art of relating first to yourself and then to a potential partner. We will offer you the opportunity to do deep and transformative work to heal the split between your heart and pelvis, your loving and sexual feelings”. Pam
Sign Up Today! Tell your friends.
Email: coreenergetics@msn.com Call: 770-388-0086
When: Feb 20-23, Friday through Monday, 2004
Where:
Cost: $650.00 per person. Early Registration Discount by
Deposit: $300.00 couples, $150.00 per person
Refunds: No refunds after
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Core Energetics is the leader in healing relationship and sexual issues
Our upcoming workshop on Love & Relating and the following week -Valentines Day - has us asking: What is love anyhow? And how do I get there? This is the count down to the blast off.
Love, Eros & Sexuality: The Three Stage Rocket of Relationship
Pamela L Chubbuck copyright October 2003
It doesn't take rocket science to get to love, but it does take more understanding than
In the most positive sense Eros opens us to new possibilities; our partner brings up all our best, most creative traits. As an evolutionary process our minds and spirits expand because together we can be more than we are alone.(1).
Romance makes us want to get closer to the object of our good feelings and since there is nothing physically closer than sex -- we do it. Sex can be the bridge between Eros and love. When sex is added, we have uranium-power for our transformation and are on our way to love. Sex is exciting, energetic, expansive, and it helps create more Eros -- especially for women. Studies show that the more sex we women have the closer we feel to our partners. We want to stay with them or move in, get married, and have babies. This urge is even greater when we have orgasms say sex researchers. (1) Our biology creates this strong urge to couple for the survival of the species. If you don't want to desire the person, don't have sex.
Sex connected with love is the best we human beings have to experience the bliss of the union we long for. Sex alone is not love nor is it sexuality. Sexuality has to do with who we are as individual alive beings. It is our very nature and allows us to feel our most animate. Western peoples have split sex and love, the heart and the pelvis, one from the other. Unified sex is powerful and pleasurable but our culture supports images of sex cut off from love every minute of every day. To be truly sexual we must find our creative spark, our spontaneity, our passion for life itself. If we are cut off from our sexual flow we must work to unblock those wonderful forces within our bodies.
With time Eros tends to die out. Our shadow side surfaces and the personal demons we have not yet tamed roar their mighty roar. Just as our partner brings out our best, s/he predictably brings out our worst. Fear, anger, psychic pain and sadness are some of the emotional issues we probably stuffed down as kids which now need to come up and out to transform to love. (3) In the best sense we pick our partners so we can bring to consciousness and move through these stuck places.(4) But sadly we or our partners usually then feel we must leave the relationship to find that initial excitement again… and again.
We come to expect never ending romance in relationship. We are not taught how to find and create love. We end up with hurting hearts; or -- in dead-end mediocre partnerships. But wait! It takes work and commitment to get to Love. And just when most people are leaving a new relationship the chance to find true love is at hand.
Getting to love needs a three stage rocket. It takes Eros and sex to blast us out of earth's gravitational pull and into the realm of true love. Reaching and sustaining orbit takes revealing to ourselves and our partners, our shadow -- our shameful demons. We must be genuinely honest and find our deepest truth. Along this path we will have profound life lessons that we share with our partner and together we can solve life's problems and experiences life's joys. This is what moves sex and romance into the realm of true love. Eros and sex can and should remain part of partnered love and what makes our partners sexually exciting to us and us to them is the constant discovery of new things about ourselves and the other. One never knows all about the partner because we are all constantly discovering, evolving, and learning. Love is an adventure of revelations. Partnership and marriage are one of life's most spiritual paths.
To stay in Love's orbit we must practice unconditional positive regard for our partner, loving them even when they reveal their dark side to us as we hope they will love us through revealing ours. Stay in orbit by keeping the spark of Eros alive, enjoying the excitement and pleasure of sex and embracing the practice of love as growth potential at its most thrilling.
Footnotes and suggested reading:
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2), Hot Monogamy, Patricia Love
3), Core Energetics, John C Pierrakos MD
4) Getting the Love You Want, by Harville Hendrix, PhD
Also suggested: Pleasure; and Love, Sex & Your Heart, by Alexander Lowen, MD
What's Up in 2004?
Pam's Upcoming Core Energetics workshops
Cost for One Day Workshop: $150.00. Three Day Workshop: $350.00. A therapy bargain!
Place:
Please pre-register at least two weeks before workshop
Please call Sevenoaks directly for information & to sign up for July Workshop.
Sevenoaks Phone: 540-948-6544
Transforming Our Darkness to Light
Core Energetics philosophically believes and teaches that we must go to the underbelly of our social mask to experience and thus transform our darkness to light. There is juicy stuff hiding in our dark side. It is the power of our Life Force that our mask works to hold at bay. It was just too frightening to the wounded child part of us, to express, because we weren't allowed to, and were punished for being ourselves as children.
John Pierrakos often told this ancient story with his own Core Energetics twist. “Icarus, flew to the sun on wings held together with wax. When he got close to the sun the wax melted and he was plunged into the sea. The sea of humanity. You can't get to God with out going into the darkness of human suffering.” This is the work of Core Energetics. In Core Energetics the dark is not bad…indeed it is beautiful stuff, that when released, brings us to our joy and spontaneity. Carl Jung said, “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” We all will benefit from this work of transformation. It will enliven us and create health and joy.
The following is about what nature teaches us.
Healing Dark Time: What Winter Can Teach Us
Ahhhh the cold and dark days of winter. Maybe we have SAD, (seasonal affect disorder) and get depressed when our part of the earth, the western hemisphere, is further away from the sun, bringing us, from now until Dec 21st , progressively shorter days and longer and longer nights. Perhaps we allow our ancient body sensitivities to take us into a pattern not unlike hibernation. We go to bed earlier, eat more, put on a few extra pounds, wrap up and sit in front of a fire or watch good old movies. Winter is a good time to cuddle with a lover, or read all those great books we've been saving because we didn't have the time while being outside in summer.
Things are quieter. Even the kids aren't outside as much and the neighborhood dogs don't bark as often. Birds are further south or resting and squirrels just aren't chattering as much as they busily store acorns for the colder months ahead.
Winter has many messages. Nature and the nature of winter can teach us if we are listening. Natural things don't just stop, they go below the surface and are quiescent, storing up energy to activate anew in the spring. Under the earth the bulbs are storing energy, the sap is lower and deeper in the trees, earthworms and other bugs are resting, chipmunks and snakes are hanging around more under the ground than above.
All of life needs dark time -- resting time. Life must have it's time of quiet and dark to create. Life comes from the creativity of dark, holding, resting, sitting with ourselves on a deep inner level. Sitting. Paying attention. Sitting -- no ego. No mind -- sitting. And paying deep attention to what comes from this quiet. From this we come to know ourselves and it has been said by many great teachers, that we can only find God in the deep reaches of our own quiet inner space. Ancient teachings and New Physics tell us that since God is everywhere in every thing, we are God and God is us. Out of our own darkness we can find God. This finding of God is the major blessing we all long for.
We can use our time of darkness to rejuvenate ourselves.
And always in health and healing there must be balance. Spend the brightest time of the day outside. Sit by a window when working at your desk if possible. And if you feel depressed -- a different sort of thing than quiet introspection -- get or build a light box and use it every day while you work. Open all the shades and let in the light when it is light. Enjoy the dark during the dark time.
May we all be blessed in this season of dark and rejoice as the light makes its return starting Dec 22. The Light returning is the basis for all our religious holidays coming up soon. Joy to the world!
Personal Psycho-Spiritual Intensives™
Just What Your Inner Doctor May Order
OK, I'm coming out of the closet to tell you about something that is so exciting and powerful that I have been doing for many years but have never written about. It's been my little secret. That is - my Psycho-Spiritual Intensives™. I developed Personal Psycho-Spiritual Intensives ™ in 1995, to fill a need for people who wanted to work with me who lived at a distance. I have very much enjoyed doing them ever since. Now it's time for folks to know that they are available and they are potent!
I cut my teeth on working in a three week group intensive setting back in the late 60's and early 70's. I certainly learned a lot from those experiences! Those were the days when everyone was experimenting with many kinds of therapy and in my training program we learned everything that was out there -- Hypnosis, Bioenergetics, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Primal Therapy, various marshal arts techniques, massage, Pathwork and other Spiritual Integrative works, etc. and then we used it with clients. We were pioneers and it was wonderful. Of course now I use all that I learned then and since when I work with people.
People come for their intensive work that live in other states, locally and from other countries. People who come may especially want to work with me or simply don't have a Core Eneregtics therapist in their area and have heard that I can design personal work and time for them.
The intensive work is created on an individual basis to fit people's specific needs. I love the flexibility and depth of this way of working. I love not having to stop on the hour, and being able to support and allow the individual his or her organic time to complete their piece of work.
Here's what a few people say about their work with me in the Psycho-Spiritual Intensive™ format. Their words describe the experience best:
”I can't imagine ever getting to this point in traditional, one hour talk therapy. Thank you for your courage in joining in my adventure and your love that carried me through it safely”. Meyrl L., BBSH Student
”What I appreciate most about Pam's work is her wealth of knowledge in the various health and psycho spiritual arenas that many profess and she possess…” Lynn Cox, Massage Therapist,
“I came to a crucial point in my therapy when so much early pain began to surface at once. I just couldn't cope. My week-long intensive with Pam definitely kept me out of the hospital.” Wendy,
“For the first time in my life that I can remember I don't feel total disgust when thinking of my father and that my dear is a miracle”!
L. M., Therapist & Student of the Healing Arts,
If you want to explore creating a psycho-spiritual Intensive for yourself. Please call Pam @
770-388-0086 or email coreenergetics@msn.com . I'll be happy to talk with you.
For more information click Personal Psycho-Spiritual Intensives
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“To create physical and emotional health we must unblock our physical and emotional energies and work to enliven our true nature, which is spontaneous and joyful. We must explore our dark side and find what we are afraid of and angry about. Working energetically with our bodies allows us to transform old belief systems and images, revive our bodies and expand our creative nature, which is fused with our creative expression”. Pam Chubbuck
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